NLP A To Z
Calibration - Calibration
is the act of noticing the external manifestations of a
learning what they mean in terms of what is going on within the subject.
For instance, in most cases, clenched fists indicate frustration or anger.
But you may have a subject who is talking about skiing, and clenches her
fists as if around ski poles. With good calibration, you will know she is
really stepping into skiing, not anger or frustration. Calibration
can also refer to noticing the external manifestations of the subject's
Certification - In the
United States and most other countries, NLP can be professionally
practiced without a license or certification. Many schools of NLP do offer
certification. The quality of the schools, and their testing for
certification vary. In some, merely attending most of the lectures is
sufficient. In others, that only brings a 'certificate of participation,'
and one or more well-executed sessions with a member of the general
public, witnessed by an instructor or teaching assistant is required. Each
school's certification is autonomous. There is no international or
national certifying board, or even uniform guidelines. In the most
permissive cases, certification is assured by simply buying the lessons on
Client - The subject
(recipient) of NLP in a professional setting.
Cloth Monkey - In disturbing experiments with baby monkeys who were raised by cloth covered inert forms with milk-producing nipples, instead of their real mothers, all sorts of psychological deviation developed. The term cloth-monkey, or cloth-monkey mother, has come to represent a parent who is not sufficiently physically loving to a child.
Coaching - Derived from the concept of coaching in sports, coaching now extends to many areas of human pursuit such as business, appearance, relationship, and life coaching. Coaching is often done in weekly hour-long sessions by people with experience in the chosen field. The coach supports, suggests, advises, reminds, encourages, and even nags in some cases. Most forms of coaching in most communities requires no licensing. Coaching is often done entirely by telephone. Coaches with NLP experience are generally more effective than others.
Collapsing Anchors - A programmer can anchor a resourceful state during a conversation. The programmer can later elicit an unwanted state. As the subject steps into the unwanted state, the programmer can fire the previouly established resourceful state anchor. This sets off an internal meld in which when the original trigger for the unwanted state is activated, the new, resourceful state is expereinced instead. There are several simple and complex techniques that involve collapsing anchors in various ways.
Counter-Exampling - A condition we all share, some more than others, in which a statement - typically an example - is examined for weaknesses, and one or more of those weaknesses are discussed. Counter-exampling is often used to avoid discussing issues. In some individuals it becames habitual.
Programmer: Can you think of a specific instance when you saw your hero do the right thing?
Subject: Yes, but there was this one time when he really messed up...
Critter - Shorthand for
"critter brain." This refers to an inner portion of the human
brain that has not changed much since reptiles were invented, and is
sometimes also called the "lizard" or "reptile" brain.
All creatures from reptiles on up have this portion in common. It is
responsible for autonomic processes such as
breathing and heartbeat. It also handles first response in potential
emergency situations. It is the first to assess situations that may
require fight, flight or freeze. The critter brain does not understand
speech, time or any sort of abstract thinking. As highly developed
mammals, we have large, complex outer layers in our brains to handle all
of that. One of the most fascinating aspects of NLP is that we have
learned to identify the behaviors the critter brain initiates and have
techniques for offering new and better choices.
Creative Listening -
Creative listening is a subset of NLP that anyone can learn in 5 minutes and makes communication with just about anyone about anything, easier and better. More details here.
Critter Brain - see
- Body mirroring, part of the rapport
package of techniques, is the process of copying a subject's
body position to soothe the critter-level brain,
allowing for easier and deeper communication. There are times when full
mirroring is not practical. Crossover mirroring is to use another part of
the programmer's body to approximate the
subject's position. For instance, if the subject has a leg propped on a
footstool, the programmer can prop the corresponding arm on a ledge or
Current State - (also
known as present state) The current state of affairs it the subject's
life. Generally, there is something about the current state that the
subject wants to improve. As a programmer,
it is always a good idea to respect the current state, and know that it is
better that what it replaced. Often, reframing
specific aspects of the current state is all the subject needs and can
have rather spectacular results.
More coming soon!