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Backtracking - Also known as "digital backtracking." This technique, part of the "rapport" package of techniques, involves using the subject's own phrases in conversation. For instance, the subject may refer to something as 'tubular,' evidently meaning 'spectacular.' Later, the programmer, when conversing about something spectacular, can call it 'tubular.' Backtracking brings comfort to the subject's critter-level brain, allowing for easier and deeper communication. Digital backtracking is nearly the opposite of a popular (non-NLP) technique called "active listening."


Bandler, Richard - (1950 - ), one of the two co-founders of NLP. Richard approached linguist John Grinder at the University of California at Santa Cruz while pursuing his degree in psychology about modeling the work of well-known therapists. Their work became the core of NLP. Of the two, Richard is the more flamboyant, reportedly having experimented a bit too much with cocaine, and at one point being accused of murder in some sort of drug situation gone bad. There is a rumor that he stated he would work his NLP magic on the judge and jury and thereby be acquitted. He was in fact acquitted. Wikipedia has a good article on Richard Bandler.


Bateson, Gregory - (1904 - 1980), a cyberneticist, anthropologist and social scientist studied by the founders of NLP. He was a contemporary of Milton H. Erickson, who was born three years earlier, but also died in 1980. Gregory Bateson's father, William Bateson, was a geneticist, and his wife, Margaret Mead, a well-known anthropologist. Gregory Bateson invented the term Double Bind. Wikipedia has a good article on Gregory Bateson.


Behavior - Technically, behavior is outward manifestation of internal processes. Behavior is generally considered entirely separate from personality.


Beliefs - In NLP, beliefs generally refer to consequences of rules that we made for ourselves, usually at a very young age, to understand the world, our position in the world, and how to react. These beliefs are almost entirely unrelated to religious or ethnic beliefs. Typical beliefs may include: All wealthy people are evil; You can never get ahead if you're nice; If anything can go wrong, it will; The other shoe always drops; There's something fundamentally wrong with me; I can never socialize properly; I am unable to complete projects; and so on. Many beliefs, such as the ones mentioned here, are limiting beliefs, ones which limit our behaviors in ways that may be less than optimal. 


Body Mirroring - More generally known as "mirroring." A process of positioning one's body in the same way as the subject so that the critter-level aspect of the subject's mind is comfortable with the programmer. When the programmer copies the posture of the subject a few seconds after the subject's posture changes, a noticeable ease comes over the session. One would think the programmer would be easily 'busted' - detected by the subject, but this is seldom the case, and easily excused away when it does happen. Mirroring can extend to facial expression, but mirroring facial expression is not often practiced. Mirroring is a portion of a package of techniques called "rapport." Many who are new to NLP are confused by which side, left or right, to mirror. It is if the subject were truly looking in a mirror. So, if the subject's left hand is forward, then the programmer's right hand would be forward in approximately the same way. See also: crossover mirroring.


Break State - After a sufficient period of time when a subject has been remembering the past or imagining the future, you may want to bring the subject to the here and now. This is called "breaking state," and is often referred to as just "break" or a "breakstate" when used as a noun. Breaking state is important so that the subject doesn't bring the emotions or thoughts from the previous state into the next one. In other words, if the subject has been associated into an unresourceful childhood state, and you ask, "what would you bring that child to help him..." you won't often get a good response, unless you bring the subject back to an 'adult' state first. 


Breakstate - See Break State.


But - This word has special significance in NLP. It has the often unexpected effect of making the first part of a sentence invisible. For instance, if you tell someone, "I like what you've done with your lawn, but it's too bad the azalea bushes are so close to the fence," all the recipient will remember hearing is the second part - the critique about the bushes, not the compliment about the lawn.


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