NLP A To Z
Margaret Mead - (1901-1978),
was a popular speaker, author and cultural anthropologist. Se was married to
Gregory Bateson for 14 years. During part of that time, the founders of NLP studied Gregory Bateson's work. Although there is no known links between Dr. Mead and NLP, it is likely some of her philosophy or research may have affected or been integrated into what has become NLP. Wikipedia has a nice article on Margaret Mead.
Metaphor - This term is used
in NLP to describe the telling of a story that indirectly indicates
possibility for change. The story can be of the programmer's
own experience, someone else's experience, a fairy tale, or any other sort
of fiction. See the section, Speaking
A meta-program can be thought of as a scale of opposites. People have many varying meta-programs.
One of the most common is "toward-away from." People on the extreme 'toward' end of the scale think in terms of going toward things. They 'look forward' to their promotion, they are 'moving things along,' they are 'attracted' to something, or 'hoping to go through the door.' People on the 'away from' end would 'rather not eat waffles,' don't 'like camping,' or 'can't stand Beethoven.' Other common meta-programs are 'big picture - detail,' 'rebel - conservative,' and 'humorous - straight.' There are probably hundreds of meta-programs. Meta-programs are not judgements. A person who is strongly away-from has strengths that the 'toward' person does not have. Meta-programs are difficult to shift. Attempting to shift someone's meta-program is probably a fruitless pursuit.
The big advantage in noticing a subject's meta-programs is that you can speak in the same way, and your rapport, reframes and metaphors will be much more effective.
Milton Model -
a package of hypnotic languaging techniques based on the work of Milton H. Erickson.
Mirroring - Also known as
"body mirroring." A process of positioning one's body in the
same way as the subject so that the critter-level
aspect of the subject's mind is comfortable with the programmer.
When the programmer copies the posture of the subject a few seconds after
the subject's posture changes, a noticeable ease comes over the session.
One would think the programmer would be easily 'busted' - detected by the
subject, but this is seldom the case, and easily excused away when it does
happen. Mirroring can extend to facial expression, but mirroring facial
expression is not often practiced. Mirroring is a portion of a package of
techniques called "rapport." Many
who are new to NLP are confused by which side, left or right, to mirror.
It is if the subject were truly looking in a mirror. So, if the subject's
left hand is forward, then the programmer's right hand would be forward in
approximately the same way. See also: crossover
Mirroring of Gestures
- Mirroring of gestures is part of the package of techniques known as
"rapport" to soothe the subject's
critter-level brain so that communication is
easier and deeper. When the subject makes a motion, typically with the arm
and hand, the programmer can find a way to
copy that gesture a short time later, using the opposite arm - so that it
appears as if the subject were seeing his/her own gesture in a mirror.
Mirroring of gestures is especially powerful when used with digital
Modeling - The very first use of NLP was to discover ways in which
experts in various fields could be studied so that potentially anyone could have the skills of anyone else. The founders, John Grinder and Richard Bandler first used modeling to see if they could learn
the techniques of Virgina Satir, Fritz Perls, Milton H. Erickson and other super-successful therapists at the time. The general idea is
that if you can understand what a person is thinking - what they're focusing on at the key times as they use their skill, you can learn
more quickly to do the same things than without modeling.
Mumford - This is a popular
1999 movie, starring Loren Dean, generally available in the VHS format
that is about a fellow who is a mental health practitioner, of sorts. If
you have a sense of humor about NLP-like practitioners and the mental
health field, I'm pretty sure you'll enjoy it. I can't give the story
away, so hopefully you'll have an opportunity to rent or buy this video.
More coming soon!